Saturday, October 29, 2011

A few of Gods thoughts on Marriage

For this cause a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.” -Genesis 2:24

“Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her; that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she should be holy and blameless. So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, because we are members of His body. For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh.

This mystery is great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ and the church. Nevertheless let each individual among you also love his own wife even as himself; and let the wife see to it that she respect her husband.” – Ephesians 5:22-33

“Love is patient, love is kind, and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” – 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

“In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior. And let not your adornment be merely external – braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God. For in this way in former times the holy women also, who hoped in God, used to adorn themselves, being submissive to their own husbands. Thus Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, and you have become her children if you do what is right without being frightened by any fear.

You husbands likewise, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with a weaker vessel, since she is a woman; and grant her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.

To sum up, let all be harmonious, sympathetic, brotherly, kindhearted, and humble in spirit; not returning evil for evil, or insult for insult, but giving a blessing instead; for you were called for the very purpose that you might inherit a blessing.” -1 Peter 3:1-9

Dear Lord i pray that you help us to become as you desire.May my marriage and those who read this experience the joy and blessings of MARRIAGE



Marriage is not a word. It is a sentence--a life sentence.
Marriage is very much like a violin; after the sweet music is over, the strings are attached.

A good marriage must be created.
In marriage, the little things are the big things:
Never being too old to hold hands.
Remembering to say "I love you" at least once a day.
Never going to sleep angry.
Having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
Standing together facing the world.
Forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
Speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
Having the capacity to forgive and forget, and then forgetting what you forgave.
Giving each other an atmosphere in which to grow.
Not only MARRYING the right person, but BEING the right partner.

However, most of these are not practiced in MARRIAGES,especially in the southern part of Nigeria(WARRI) where this SACRAMENT is now a play tool.
Men turn thier wives into punching bags,Indulge in Alcoholism,sleep around with girls and even fellow men(the most disgusting),hangout till late,make LIES thier mother tongue.

In a nutshell they violate completely,the essence of MARRIAGE.


Chaos... Sometimes I wonder the kind of people we are??(Nigerians).The level of hypocrisy, tribal differences, and double standards we live amidst today. All these good will statements made by politicians and their associates on media; is any of these going to cause the slightest bit of change in Nigerian polity or bring peace? For the unrest in the Niger delta, Jos, and the Muslims and Christians disagreements??Hmmm... I know that these seminars and political strategy deployed cannot sanitise any of these......In a summary, this is what I want to say: dont pretend you care about this great nation when you dont, dont make ambiguous press statements you cannot achieve (your 500 points agenda and different visions that will never be achieved.try to be a man of your word because even if the present does not hold it against you, history will surely write it and make references.One of the most dissatisfying attitudes is not just the double standards of the politicians but mostly the attitudes of the people, the citizens (if we need change we should know that it starts from us in every area of our daily activities.)Why all the waste of time criticizing politicians(This allocation comes into our state or local government, but nothing to show for it.Z has several houses and lots more yet he has not built anything for this state or local government or even this country. That person has j numbers of security, yet there is insecurity in our state. That person was calling this political party member a traitor yesterday, now he’s calling him a martyr...Yes agreed it’s all wrong, are you doing anything about it besides talking? Have you filed a suite against anything or anyone you thought is wrong? Ever thought of initiating a real movement with real issues? For that matter will you even remember these 6 months from now? How long will you keep talking and forgetting about things? If you want something you Nigerian, you better learn to fight for it. It requires some real work, real sweat and real sacrifices. And if you can’t take the heat get out of the kitchen. It’s sad that News channels are not courageous enough to disseminate true situation reports, politicians getting overfed with the national cake as they call it, but still wanting more and some citizens still praise sing them. This great country blessed with vast natural resources has not been able to elevate the standard of living because of our leaders and untruthful and unpatriotic citizens. You call it resilient spirit? I think it’s more to do with not having the ball to do anything. Admit your impotency Nigeria.

Lifes Complexities

Lifes complexities! Its 8:48pm on a saturday.
hmmmm.....Sitting, wondering and wishing if I can really see through peoples hearts their thoughts and intentions??????Of course when we compare with their reactions,words and responses, you will know we humans give misleading interpretations.
Sometimes when words are said why are they miss-interpreted?Why do people say things they do not mean?Why do people not take things as they are communicated????Why are friends not completely real? why do men feel threatened by their Ego? Why do people demand more than they give?? Why are humans selfish?? Why can we not ignore all these odds especially when we know it?? Why do we get touchy about all these?? In all these I know that i have no right to HATE nor DISLIKE people for their odds,because i have mine too and most importantly if God judges me based on my odds i will not be a living being.
Thanks father for your mercy love and faithfulness. Life’s complexities, Trust issues, Achievements, Dreams, Aspirations,Salvation.... hmmm....Trying to find a balance and i know its achievable.
May God help us in finding balance to life’s experiences?