One of life’s greatest lessons is that you alone are responsible for your thoughts and actions. While you cannot always choose your circumstances, you can choose your thoughts. Those thoughts will shape the kind of person you will become, as well as the decisions you make.
You are responsible for constructing your life journey, like my Daddy always says, ‘MAN IS THE ARCHITECT OF HIS FORTUNE’. The inspirational dream, isn’t measurable, it’s about reaching the stars and not counting them.
You should have checks for your dream journey like:
ü I am working at being a positive person, with a positive self image
ü I am living in the present and taking responsibility for my life
ü I am a dreamer, imagining where i could be in the future
ü I have set specific,realistic,achieveable and measurable goals
ü I have one key goal,i will GROW a little each day
ü I am not afraid of hard work
ü I am prepared to move out of my comfort zone
ü I can follow a healthy balanced life style
Most importantly, in attaining set goals, you must learn how to manage your time.managing your time, is one of the secrets to enjoying the goal getting journey. It leads to a balanced lifestyle, ongoing personal growth and a sense of personal satisfaction as you develop new skills. In this you can discover through trial and effort the method of managing time that suits you most.
In the journey to success, you will always encounter obstacles that will groom you, so they are necessities. However in managing obstacles, you have to hold on to your positive thoughts about yourself, your strength and your ability, these are the key parts of the goal getting journey. But you should know that life is a journey and it’s in stages, also your new habits, new methods of planning in improving your journey through life will also take time. If you try to be consistent overtime you will get results progressively.
A characteristic of successful men and women is that they never use the word ‘FAILURE’ They look upon temporary defeats and setbacks as simply another way of learning how to succeed...They learn from every experience. They refuse to get upset. They keep their minds focussed on their goals.
It is worthy of note that life has meaning and purpose. This is why it is worthwhile exploring opportunities, developing new skills and interest, coping with new situations and having a positive view of the future.
30 TIPS FOR THE JOURNEY THROUGH LIFE
Attitude – never ever forget that you choose your attitude and how you respond to all that life throws at you. Live in hope and work hard at taking a positive, constructive attitude into everything you do and into all your meaningful relationships.
Ask – never stop asking questions no matter how trivial you might think they are. When others share their stories with you, you will gain knowledge which could significantly impact your life decisions.
Apologise – no-one is perfect. When you make a mistake, say you are sorry.
Celebrate – celebrate the small and large victories; the times you achieve a relatively simple goal or achieve a long-term, major goal or when you successfully make it through a tough challenge. Never lose your sense of humour. Laugh often. Have fun.
Communicate – work consistently hard at developing and improving your communication skills. Become a brilliant listener, a motivator, encourager and inspiration to others. Develop a positive vocabulary, watch your body language and radiate care, compassion and unconditional love towards others. Show empathy, be genuine and respectful and people will value your contributions to their lives.
Conflict – conflict is part of life. Learn how to turn conflict into a positive learning and growth experience. Deal with it without violating another’s rights and don’t run away from it. Develop mediation skills. Become a healer where there is tension, pain, misunderstanding and suffering. Peacemakers are desperately needed!
Failure – don’t fear failure. Move out of your comfort zone if the challenge is not life-threatening. Life lessons are learnt when you give something a go. The key is to learn from the experience.
Finish well – whatever you do, give it your best shot until you finish, even if this is simply completing something only you know about. Whatever you start, even when you decide it’s not something you wish to pursue, finish well. Those who finish well find more windows of opportunities opening and they will soar on eagle’s wings.
Goal-getting – be a goal getter. Experiment with different methods of reaching your goal/s until you find the best method for you. Draw up a clear action plan and take small steps initially. Research suggests that those who set goals achieve much.
Humility – stay grounded so you do not allow your achievements to go to your head. Be proud of all you achieve, always remaining humble.
Integrity and Forgiveness – be a person of integrity, someone who keeps their word and who others can trust and depend on. Be respectful of yourself and others. Be quick to sincerely forgive those who wrong you, even when you battle to forget.
Learning – never ever stop learning and acquiring knowledge. Knowledge feeds the soul and helps you to become an effective change-agent in your local and wider community. Research, read widely, consult others and explore the works, ideas and opinions of others.
Listen – always listen to the opinions and ideas of others. Older people have more life experiences and their stories can assist your personal growth. They also were adolescents. Through listening, you have the opportunity to discern information you would like to use and store or discard.
Mirror Talk – love the person you see in the mirror each day. Remember you are unique and special and no-one else has your specific gifts and talents. It’s a fact – never forget that. Ignore those who tell you otherwise.
Money – avoid making money your God. It won’t and never can be. While it’s wonderful to have sufficient money to feed, clothe, house and educate ourselves, later to raise a family in a safe and secure environment, money will not buy you happiness.
Opportunities – engrave into your Being that every obstacle can be turned into an opportunity if you are prepared to think creatively, seek the guidance and wisdom of others and have the patience to work towards something, rather than expect a quick-fix solution or instant gratification.
Passion/s – identify your passion or passions. If you could do anything you wanted today and had all the qualifications you needed, what would you choose to do? That’s your passion – do something with it! Chase it!
Persevere – don’t quit! Go the extra mile even if you have to sweat a little, make some sacrifices (of social life) or commit yourself to something for a little longer. You will amaze yourself at what can be achieved when you do this.
Positive Peers – when you surround yourself with positive peers you will have a greater chance of becoming the best you can be. Positive peers know right from wrong – always choose your friends carefully and let trust develop over time.
Reflect – take time out each day to think about how you are doing, what you are doing, why you are doing it and what lessons can be learnt. Pray, meditate and be still for a few minutes each day.
Relationships – keep building your relationships and networks with peers, family, other adults (teachers, coaches etc.), employers and, most importantly, with God – that’s a challenge, but the soul needs to be nurtured. The world is slowly coming to appreciate that the story of the life, death and resurrection of Jesus is historically proven. Not sure? With an open mind, check out the details yourself. To be loved unconditionally is an amazing experience and it’s something every honest human being desires.
Self-discipline – build a disciplined lifestyle into all you do e.g. 9 hours sleep a night (don’t make excuses about that!); a balanced lifestyle (at least 30 minutes of exercise every second day); manage your time well (time to work, time to study, time to eat, time to socialise and relax, time to exercise, time to follow an interest or hobby, time to sleep); say ‘no’ to drugs and alcohol abuse (so you don’t damage your brain during crucial developmental times), cigarettes and inappropriate sexual behaviour.
Service – give of yourself to others expecting nothing in return. Get involved in outreach programs. Through reaching out to others, you will discover many more positive qualities about yourself. Sometimes a friendly smile directed at a stranger or a peer can change their day. The world needs servant leaders – become one.
Share – share your ideals, passions and goals with at least one adult you trust and respect, in addition to your parent/s (optional). This is the person who can guide and encourage you non-judgmentally towards achieving your dreams. This experience teaches you how to be vulnerable with others in a safe and secure environment, a necessary life skill.
Stay focused – keep your eyes on your personal photograph at all times. That will get you through the tough and challenging times. There are no quick-fix, easy solutions. Success takes consistently hard work, careful planning and perseverance.
Take ownership – write down in the Present tense i.e. as if you were achieving your goal/s today, how you are feeling e.g. I feel …because …" Take ownership of your picture.
Teamwork – always seek to be a team player, a sure way to develop positive peer relationships, have role models in your life, be an encouragement to others, turn obstacles into opportunities and reach out to those in need.
Thanks – always express your genuine thanks to all who share their gold nuggets of wisdom and experience with you or offer you a helping hand.
Visualise – create an imaginary photo (or a real one!) of yourself achieving whatever it is you would like to achieve ie, as though you have already achieved it. Note your body language, your facial expression, your positive thoughts – never let go of it.
Thursday, November 3, 2011
Saturday, October 29, 2011
A few of Gods thoughts on Marriage
For this cause a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and they shall become one flesh.” -Genesis 2:24
“Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her; that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she should be holy and blameless. So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, because we are members of His body. For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh.
This mystery is great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ and the church. Nevertheless let each individual among you also love his own wife even as himself; and let the wife see to it that she respect her husband.” – Ephesians 5:22-33
“Love is patient, love is kind, and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” – 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
“In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior. And let not your adornment be merely external – braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God. For in this way in former times the holy women also, who hoped in God, used to adorn themselves, being submissive to their own husbands. Thus Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, and you have become her children if you do what is right without being frightened by any fear.
You husbands likewise, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with a weaker vessel, since she is a woman; and grant her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.
To sum up, let all be harmonious, sympathetic, brotherly, kindhearted, and humble in spirit; not returning evil for evil, or insult for insult, but giving a blessing instead; for you were called for the very purpose that you might inherit a blessing.” -1 Peter 3:1-9
Dear Lord i pray that you help us to become as you desire.May my marriage and those who read this experience the joy and blessings of MARRIAGE
“Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her; that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she should be holy and blameless. So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, because we are members of His body. For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife; and the two shall become one flesh.
This mystery is great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ and the church. Nevertheless let each individual among you also love his own wife even as himself; and let the wife see to it that she respect her husband.” – Ephesians 5:22-33
“Love is patient, love is kind, and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” – 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
“In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior. And let not your adornment be merely external – braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God. For in this way in former times the holy women also, who hoped in God, used to adorn themselves, being submissive to their own husbands. Thus Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, and you have become her children if you do what is right without being frightened by any fear.
You husbands likewise, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with a weaker vessel, since she is a woman; and grant her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.
To sum up, let all be harmonious, sympathetic, brotherly, kindhearted, and humble in spirit; not returning evil for evil, or insult for insult, but giving a blessing instead; for you were called for the very purpose that you might inherit a blessing.” -1 Peter 3:1-9
Dear Lord i pray that you help us to become as you desire.May my marriage and those who read this experience the joy and blessings of MARRIAGE
Marriage....??
Marriage....???
Marriage is not a word. It is a sentence--a life sentence.
Marriage is very much like a violin; after the sweet music is over, the strings are attached.
A good marriage must be created.
In marriage, the little things are the big things:
Never being too old to hold hands.
Remembering to say "I love you" at least once a day.
Never going to sleep angry.
Having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
Standing together facing the world.
Forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
Speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
Having the capacity to forgive and forget, and then forgetting what you forgave.
Giving each other an atmosphere in which to grow.
Not only MARRYING the right person, but BEING the right partner.
However, most of these are not practiced in MARRIAGES,especially in the southern part of Nigeria(WARRI) where this SACRAMENT is now a play tool.
Men turn thier wives into punching bags,Indulge in Alcoholism,sleep around with girls and even fellow men(the most disgusting),hangout till late,make LIES thier mother tongue.
In a nutshell they violate completely,the essence of MARRIAGE.
Marriage is not a word. It is a sentence--a life sentence.
Marriage is very much like a violin; after the sweet music is over, the strings are attached.
A good marriage must be created.
In marriage, the little things are the big things:
Never being too old to hold hands.
Remembering to say "I love you" at least once a day.
Never going to sleep angry.
Having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
Standing together facing the world.
Forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
Speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
Having the capacity to forgive and forget, and then forgetting what you forgave.
Giving each other an atmosphere in which to grow.
Not only MARRYING the right person, but BEING the right partner.
However, most of these are not practiced in MARRIAGES,especially in the southern part of Nigeria(WARRI) where this SACRAMENT is now a play tool.
Men turn thier wives into punching bags,Indulge in Alcoholism,sleep around with girls and even fellow men(the most disgusting),hangout till late,make LIES thier mother tongue.
In a nutshell they violate completely,the essence of MARRIAGE.
Chaos
Chaos... Sometimes I wonder the kind of people we are??(Nigerians).The level of hypocrisy, tribal differences, and double standards we live amidst today. All these good will statements made by politicians and their associates on media; is any of these going to cause the slightest bit of change in Nigerian polity or bring peace? For the unrest in the Niger delta, Jos, and the Muslims and Christians disagreements??Hmmm... I know that these seminars and political strategy deployed cannot sanitise any of these......In a summary, this is what I want to say: dont pretend you care about this great nation when you dont, dont make ambiguous press statements you cannot achieve (your 500 points agenda and different visions that will never be achieved.try to be a man of your word because even if the present does not hold it against you, history will surely write it and make references.One of the most dissatisfying attitudes is not just the double standards of the politicians but mostly the attitudes of the people, the citizens (if we need change we should know that it starts from us in every area of our daily activities.)Why all the waste of time criticizing politicians(This allocation comes into our state or local government, but nothing to show for it.Z has several houses and lots more yet he has not built anything for this state or local government or even this country. That person has j numbers of security, yet there is insecurity in our state. That person was calling this political party member a traitor yesterday, now he’s calling him a martyr...Yes agreed it’s all wrong, are you doing anything about it besides talking? Have you filed a suite against anything or anyone you thought is wrong? Ever thought of initiating a real movement with real issues? For that matter will you even remember these 6 months from now? How long will you keep talking and forgetting about things? If you want something you Nigerian, you better learn to fight for it. It requires some real work, real sweat and real sacrifices. And if you can’t take the heat get out of the kitchen. It’s sad that News channels are not courageous enough to disseminate true situation reports, politicians getting overfed with the national cake as they call it, but still wanting more and some citizens still praise sing them. This great country blessed with vast natural resources has not been able to elevate the standard of living because of our leaders and untruthful and unpatriotic citizens. You call it resilient spirit? I think it’s more to do with not having the ball to do anything. Admit your impotency Nigeria.
Lifes Complexities
Lifes complexities! Its 8:48pm on a saturday.
hmmmm.....Sitting, wondering and wishing if I can really see through peoples hearts their thoughts and intentions??????Of course when we compare with their reactions,words and responses, you will know we humans give misleading interpretations.
Sometimes when words are said why are they miss-interpreted?Why do people say things they do not mean?Why do people not take things as they are communicated????Why are friends not completely real? why do men feel threatened by their Ego? Why do people demand more than they give?? Why are humans selfish?? Why can we not ignore all these odds especially when we know it?? Why do we get touchy about all these?? In all these I know that i have no right to HATE nor DISLIKE people for their odds,because i have mine too and most importantly if God judges me based on my odds i will not be a living being.
Thanks father for your mercy love and faithfulness. Life’s complexities, Trust issues, Achievements, Dreams, Aspirations,Salvation.... hmmm....Trying to find a balance and i know its achievable.
May God help us in finding balance to life’s experiences?
hmmmm.....Sitting, wondering and wishing if I can really see through peoples hearts their thoughts and intentions??????Of course when we compare with their reactions,words and responses, you will know we humans give misleading interpretations.
Sometimes when words are said why are they miss-interpreted?Why do people say things they do not mean?Why do people not take things as they are communicated????Why are friends not completely real? why do men feel threatened by their Ego? Why do people demand more than they give?? Why are humans selfish?? Why can we not ignore all these odds especially when we know it?? Why do we get touchy about all these?? In all these I know that i have no right to HATE nor DISLIKE people for their odds,because i have mine too and most importantly if God judges me based on my odds i will not be a living being.
Thanks father for your mercy love and faithfulness. Life’s complexities, Trust issues, Achievements, Dreams, Aspirations,Salvation.... hmmm....Trying to find a balance and i know its achievable.
May God help us in finding balance to life’s experiences?
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